Do we really want to get well?
Do you really want to overcome an addiction?
Isn’t it so much easier to live with it than to spend all this time fighting it?
The way I hear it played out by so many is that “your addiction doesn’t really ‘hurt’ anyone” and besides! It’s a lifestyle choice and your decision so no one has the right to tell you differently. Don’t forget how busy and stressful your life is also, so your little addiction is much needed relief from the burdens of day-to-day life, right?
And when you think like that can you truly be sorry for what others see as addiction and you see as relief? And let’s be honest, once you’re committed to something you find as an escape are you genuinely concerned with making a change? Or hasn’t it become more of who you are? It’s where your thoughts dwell and even begins to take refuge in your heart. It’s your vice, your safety net…..your secret little comfort spot.
So why change it?
The hard truth is that is just might lead to your own destruction.
Your addiction will inevitably find it’s way to the top of your empire – everything you hold dear and close and have worked hard to attain – and either demolish it, or keep it from growing. Stagnating like a pool of water with mosquitos humming over it.
Your addiction will hold you back from your dreams, plans, goals and aspirations of how you imagine your life can turn out only to realize that you’ve been wandering blind in a forest full of bears with raw meat hanging around your neck.
It will tear at your relationships with family, friends and significant other bit by bit until you’re lucky enough to even have one.
It can leave you waking up in a hospital bed. It’ll eat away at what morals or values you might have left. It’ll corrupt your ambitions and eat away at your self-worth.
This little “vice” will not lead you into more joy, contentment, or fulfillment. In reality the odds are good that it could very well lead you down a path of depression, loneliness, resentment and self-hate.
Look around objectively. When was that last time you saw a content, productive, and happy alcoholic? How about his family members?
Do you see drug dealers full of joy and success? Or do they spend most of their lives hiding in the shadows?
What about porn addicts? No one ever starts out looking at child pornography, but eventually it takes it toll. How many wives go to bed lonely while their husband is obsessed with thousands of different women in pixel resolution when a perfectly good one is waiting in the other room?
We can easily go down the list, right? Heroin even. I knew and addict and she hated her life. She ended up miserable instead of content and her vice kept her at a standstill for years.
Our addictions will always tell us that it’s “just what we need” and that “we deserve it and will make us happy”. But in all honesty it’s trying to force us into a small box where the only thing we truly have that brings us joy is no longer friends, family, or even life, but simply our addiction.
So when you think to yourself… “Eh… it’s not that bad…..my little vice isn’t a big deal…..it’s not hurting anyone.” Remember that whatever’s in control of your thoughts is really taking control of your actions and directing your life in a certain path that could very well leave a wake of destruction and harm numerous people all the while putting your dreams, life and desires in a coffin.
And this isn’t me pointing a finger.
This is me pointing at myself.
I have my own addictions and vices I struggle with and each time I give in?
Well, I climb back into that coffin and slowly begin to close the lid myself.