she needs help.

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My younger sister was raped this past school year. She is a freshman and I am a junior. She was raped by a guy in my grade. Although this happened in November, my family and I have just now discovered the truth in January. It breaks my heart to see her so upset. She wants to handle it by herself, but she can't. My mom has even been through the same thing, but my sister won't let her help. I know she wants to be strong, but she can't get through this by herself. She was even friends and did make out with the guy before he raped her. He also hit her. I just don't know how to help her, because this is sending my family through great distress and depression. I know that it will take time for her to heal, but she won't even start out the right way. She believes that everyone at school hates her, which isn't true. She's popular, and only the popular kids hate her. She needs to make new friends but isn't giving anyone else a chance. I don't want her to switch schools, because this is not her fault. I feel like I can help fix this by talking to the guy who raped her, but I don't want her to get mad at me. I don't know what to do. But I know that she needs help.

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Liv wrote on February 2nd 10 at 11:44PM

Hey,
i know what your sister is going through. and its a really tough thing to go through. and i know that you feel like you can't help her but sometimes people need to fall before they are willing to let anyone in to help. maybe talk to her about seeing a christian counselor. they work wonders. and sometimes the first one won't be the right fit. and she may be going through a little bit of post traumatic depression (she doesn't have to be "depressed") which can cause her to kinda want to be alone and want to try and do it on her own. just try and let her know that you are here for her. it's gonna hurt if she kinda rejects but this is such a hard thing to talk about. and if she isn't willing yet, just let her know you are there when she's ready. It will mean more to her then you'll ever know. And when she realizes that she can't do it on her own, she will know that you are there with open arms to help her.
hope this helps.

Lyssa wrote on February 15th 10 at 10:35PM

There are only a few things you can actually DO and even then you may feel like you aren't doing anything. The first is to pray, for your sister and the rest of your family you are going though a battle and it is affecting your whole family. The second thing is love your sister, just love her express you love to her how she needs - which means if she wants you to stay out stay out but remind her you are there. And the third thing is you need to get help your sister was the one who was raped but it has affected you the man who assaulted your sister is someone you know and see and you see your sister and what she is going through, also and this may seam cliché but it's true "hurting people hurt people" so there is the possibility that you sister could lash out at you. There isn’t much else you can do that won’t push your sister away more. I am praying for you and your family for full restoration and that through this situation you will remember how much you are loved

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