3️⃣📖 Peer Modeling
Do: Relate
As peer supporters, one of our key roles is to model for others what we’ve done ourselves to offer inspiration and information of how it can be done for them.
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If we tell people what to do, we are assuming the role of an expert. Experts have the answers others should abide by.
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As an expert, we assume the risk of the success or failure of the outcome of them taking our advice. We don’t want to be on the hook for executing a rescue.
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Subliminally, we’re telling them: you aren’t able to figure out what’s best for you, but I am.
Don’t: Advise
Giving advice is outside of the bounds of our role as peer supporters.
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I’m in this with you. I’ve been where you are. I’m just offering my personal experience.
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While staying within the bounds of our role and not telling someone else what to do, they own the consequences of their action or inaction.
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We subliminally tell them: I respect you and believe in your resourcefulness. You are able to make the best decision for yourself and your life.
